I just want to communicate
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Well..I don't know if I'm beeing silly..but I have to talk to somebody about this.I have to get it out of my sistem.i've been dating a girl for a few months now.We love each other..but there is a problem.Whenever i ask her about her day..where she was..what she did...si refuses to say...se doesn't communicate at all.she says she doesn't like me to control her.I've told her twice allready that it's not about that.I just want to comunicate..and before we are lovers we should be friends..and shoudn't have secrets with each other.She still doesn't comunicate.This really bothers me.What should I do?It really afects me.
She is obviously very sensitive on this subject.
Perhaps she had an earlier b/f who nagged her endlessly and turned her off to communicating about her day. It seems to be a principle with her not to tell you.
Unfortunately it may now be a principle to you that you must know what she did. You are sensitive on this issue too.
Ideally you would compromise and that would mean that she would tell you a little bit of her day. Or another compromise would be that you would start or stop some activity that bothers her. If you can't find a compromise you are going to just have to live with her the way she is.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com