My brain says move on and forget
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Well my question is about what i should do about an ex that has a daughter and i am attached to her. i have helped raise her for about 2 1/2 years.we broke up 8 months ago,but have talked pretty much everyday since then. we always end up talking about us together again,and we drag it on and on.the ex will be hot and cold,one second she is callin me 5 times a day massaging my back when i see her and just being my girl again.then other days she doesnt call,even after i call her.and when i try to kiss her she pulls away.we agreed that if it wasnt for her kid we wouldnt be talkin at all. i can't let go of her daughter and doing that i cant move on from my ex.i dated other girls since,but nothing over a month.should i wait for her to make up her mind?move on? i'am a wreck! my brain says move on and forget about her and the kid,but my heart says that this is your true love,and the kid is like your own. please help me out.
Listen to your heart.
You have tried to move on without success. You obviously are strongly attached to your ex and her daughter. Why drop a chance to make that work out?
Have you asked your ex why she is hot and cold? Maybe she has something to help you work this out. She knows she has you where she wants you. You need to make it clear that you have limits and that her behavior can't go on forever because that is no way to live.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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