Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I don't know what to do. There's this girl I met over the internet and I realy like her. I'd say I have a crush on her. We only started to chat and mail two days ago but I can hardly sleep. I know she has an interest in me too but it's not easy. I've been only in one relationship in my life wich lasted six and a half year. Almost a year back from now we broke up. Sure I met new people, but none of them realy gave me this feeling I have now. I didn't even had the urge to date any of the other people. It's driving me nuts. I should be studying for the upcomming exams but I can't. I have my books in front of me but what i'm realy doing is looking if she isn't online yet on an instant message program, or sent me an email. After the last email i sent yesterday she came online and was very happy. She said she was a bit weary and afraid before, but cuz of the things I wrote in that mail she dared to tell me she felt a connection between us. I feel the same way! The soonest possible I can meet her seems to be mid february, wich is a month and a half from now. That's when she finishes her last exam. I can't wait that long! I'm thinking of her all the time. Looking at her pictures. I even told all about her to my ex-girlfriend the very same day I first spoke to her.
Tomorrow is my birthday but I don't feel like telling her yet. I don't want to make her feel oblaged to do or say something. She already has other plans, being newyears-eve and all tomorrow. She knows I have an interest in her too but can I already spill my feelings to her after only 3 days without I even met her in real life? I know i'm rattling on but I'm just so anctious! The wierdest part is that she isn't the type of girl I usually fall for. She is training to be on the olympics, horsback riding, or whatever they call it. And now all of a sudden I want to know all about it. Things like that never realy drew my attention ever before, now it does!
I'm already fantasizing about our first kiss. What fears me a bit is that there's this wide gap between our ways of life. I don't want to point fingers to my ex but my life stood still for a couple of years and now I'm trying to pick things back up where I stopped. I'm a year or so older than her but she already is much further in life than I am. I already told her the mayor things and she doesn't seem to mind, but what if she does in the future?
I know I'm asking a lot at once and at the same time not one clear question, but I don't know what to do. After my break-up I thought I'd never be happy again. Now it feels like I'm on top of the world again.
There's more things too it, but this is already becoming a long mail so i'll wrap it up now. At least thanks for listening.
You've only been in this relationship for two days.
Be careful not to come on too strong to this girl. She may be frightened by the suddenness and intensity of your committment. Be honest about how you feel but also acknowledge that you understand that you might be over-reacting.
She will appreciate your honesty and should set the tone more realistically than you are doing now.
Also remember that your relationship will go more smoothly if you do well in your finals because you will be less stressed. Study!
I wish you the best of luck in this new adventure! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com