My intimacy issues and us getting in trouble at work have strained our relationship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Im 20 years old, My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost four months, and she wants sex in our relationship, one weekend we went and got a hotel room and spent some time together but I got nervous and didnt have sex with her, and she was more than ready for it! I want sex with her because there are many guys who do, and its not just that i want to show her my love in that way, but since then I have been distant at work, we both work together, we love each other very much and want us to work, however there are people at work who have said that we are doing things we're not like kissing and such, we are professional in the work place, but now my intimacy issues and us getting in trouble at work have strained our realtionship, and now she wont speak to me at work beacuse shes afraid of getting in trouble, and yet i have been talking to her more and hanging out when i know there are people watching us, i need some help, she says that i need to grow up and take us seriously, what should i do?
You need to get your act together at work and outside of work.
Ask her how she ideally wants you to behave at work and the two of you should have a plan for doing it. If it means you say hi a couple of times a day and have lunch once in a while that would be better than nothing.
I didn't understand whether you want to have sex with her or not. If not, you ought to let her know asap since it may mean a lot to her. If it's just nerves then give it some more tries.
Good luck! George
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