My parents don't allow me to date
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've got a problem with my new relationship with this guy. We've been friends for about a year, and I've had feelings for him for about 5 months. On the first day of Christmas break, he called me and told me that he liked me as more than a friend, and asked me to go to our school's winter formal with him. I said yes. Since then, we've kept in touch through emails and phone calls. Yesterday he called me again, and asked if I wanted to go to his house for dinner before the dance, and told me that some of our other friends were already going. Everything is going really great, except for one small detail: My parents don't allow me to date. I've been telling them that hes only a friend, that I'm only going over to his house because it was the most conveinient for other friends, and lying about who I talk to on the phone. I know that I shouldn't be lying to them, and that they'll find out eventually. How do you think I should approach telling them about us? Is there anyway to convince them to let me date him?
Of course you don't want to lie to your parents.
As you said, they will find out anyway.
The best bet is to tell your new friend that your parents won't allow you to date so that you will have to do things as friends. That shouldn't be too much of a burden.
Then ask your mother or father what they consider dating and how old you have to be to date. Ask them if it is ok for you to kiss a boy. Do this after you have gone to the prom AS FRIENDS with your new friend. That way you will be able to tell your parents that you were not dating. Tell them you are asking these questions because this boy may want to become more than friends and you need to explain to him why you cant and what that means.
Meanwhile, try to convince your parents that you should be able to date. Point out to them that you have excellent grades, you participate in extra-curricular activities, perhaps go to church and whatever other good things you have in your favor.
You didn't mention how old you are. The younger you are the harder it will be to convince them.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com