My Ex and his New Girlfriend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex and I are out at the bar last night, and he plays a game of pool with my friend and me and another girl and he is talking to me all night. His new girlfriend leaves and he is really upset with her, what do I do. We dated for two years and just broke up three weeks ago. I know he still cares about me. but why is he acting this way. Does he really want to be with her?
If you guys dated for 2 years and only broke up 3 weeks ago, he is DEEP in rebound stage and shouldn't be dating another girl!! No wonder they are fighting. Rebound after a 2-year relationship can take MONTHS never mind weeks. He probably is incredibly confused about how he feels about you, and feels about her, and feels about dating, and everything else.
I would spend time and effort on making sure YOU get through your own rebound without getting drawn into his soap operas :) You go through a lot of feelings - sadness, loneliness, excitement, worry, etc. You may feel all sorts of things about your ex. Give yourself lots of time to be alone, time to be with family and friends. It just needs time to settle out and for you to start figuring out what you really want next in life. But now really isn't the time for you to be unravelling what your ex is doing with a new girl. It's really a pretty big mistake for him to be dating so quickly, and it will make it worse if he drags you into it ...
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com