Boyfriend lost interest
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
For all my life, I've only had maybe one or two boyfriends. I'm going to be 20 in February. I met my boyfriend randomly 8 months ago and he kept asking me out and pestering me that he liked me until I fell for him. So I've been going out with him for 7 months and he told me he loved me after 2 weeks. He was very attached and could never get enough of me the whole summer and every chance he'd get he try to see me or make me happy. We went back to college (same college) and he made a point to see me all the time. About 2 months ago, I didn't see him that much anymore because he was "too lazy" to walk over to see me across campus or he was spending time with his friends. He is very angry when he is drunk and has ditched me a lot for his friends. I always end up crying and it is impossible to talk to him because he closes up when i try to communicate with him. So this makes me even more aggrevated. Now when I see him, sometimes I feel like he really wants to see me but other times he doesnt. I mention and hint at him sometimes to get me flowers but he never does. I like him a lot, I feel that he is different and that I'd never find someone like him again. I also lost my virginity to him, which is a big deal to me. my friends say I should break up with him..HELP?!
Is it possible that he lost interest after you engaged in sex?
Some guys enjoy the "chase" and lose interest after they have gotten what they are after. This is not the kind of person you want to have a relationship with. They often look for another chase and dump their current partner.
Don't talk with him when he is drunk, unless you can't avoid it. He is in no condition to talk rationally or calmly. Save your personal talks for a better time.
Buy yourself some flowers and then thank him for giving them to you. He will be baffled and wonder who gave them to you. Immediately laugh and tell him you actually bought them for yourself. He may get the message.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com