How to end break?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend of one year and I are on a break. Shes 19 and im 21. We lived together for almost a year and got along perfect. We fell in love and as far as I know were stillin love. But recently she moved back in with her mother and step father becuase my step father moved back into my house. Now that shes back home she is growing distant, becuase she says " she could see herself with me for the rest of her life and that scares her, and since the relationship does not have the spark that is involved with enfatuation in the begining, im affraid she will catch a glimps of someone else just to feel that again. How do I end the break and get back with her, without invading to much of her space and scaring her? When I ask her what she wants in the future she says she dosent know. Please help!
Give her the space she wants or she will keep pushing you away.
Do this instead: once a week give her a call asking her how she is doing, telling her that you still care for her. Be cheerful, don't talk about your relationship, and limit the call to 15 min.
This will give her the space she wants and give you the contact you need.
No matter what you do, the risk is there that she will find someone else, but there is no way to force someone to come back before they are ready.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com