I started seeing the old guy again

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Several years ago I met this great guy. We fell in love and made plans to get married then he ended up getting trapped in a bad situation and in jail for 6 years. I always told him we would still be together and we always believed it would happen. Then I found out that I couldn't stand to be alone and met a differnt guy and got married. We had a child and everything was fine. Then my new guy did the one thing I had warned him against. He left me alone. The service took him away for 8 months just long enough to be gone when the first guy got out. I started seeing the old guy again. My husband knows I cheated on him and he is upset but said he always knew it would happen. My problem is that my husband isn't mad enough to leave but I think I might love the other guy more. The conditions of his parole prevent him from being with me because I have a child. He can see but not my child. The restrictions only last 3 years but I dont know what will happen in that time. I feel so safe when I am with him and I think about him all the time. Dont get me wrong I think about my husband to but I just can't get this other guy out of my mind. I never got over him the first time and I always kinda kept hope alive that we could be together. He is now with someone else too but he has told me that he loves me more. I just dont know what to do. When my husband finally comes home I really need to know what I want. Please any help you could give me would be much appriciated.

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If you love your husband about the same as your ex, then you should stick with your husband.

Your relationship with your ex is probably based on the memories of earlier days. You are probably romanticizing over your ex. You also said you can't stand to be alone and this is another reason you are drawn to your ex.

If you stay with your husband you not risk all of the benefits of marriage.

For example
Your child's welfare
Better financial status
Good relationships with family & friends
Better living conditions.

So, my advice is to put your ex back into the past and make your future with your husband and child.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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