I was heart broken all over again
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, here I am again - one really confused girl!!! My bf and I went out for 4 1/2 months and we just broke up 1 1/2 weeks ago. I am lost without him - I cry at the drop of a hat and I want him back so badly. He says that I broke up with him but he misunderstood what I said - I said that "maybe we should break up" and I wanted to talk to him but I had to go to class. After that he would not talk to me for 4 days. It was on a Wednesday and he finally called me Sat. night to talk. I begged for him to come back to me and told him that I was sorry and after about 2 hours, he said that he would give it another chance. Well, we didn't talk on Sun. or Mon. (I was sick and stayed from school) and on Tues. at school he told me that he just didn't love me any more and that he "wasn't feeling it". I was heart broken all over again. This is a guy that 2 1/2 weeks ago was telling me that he loved me more than anything in the world, that he wanted us to go to the same college and that he wanted to marry me. I know that we are too young to talk about things like that (we are only 15) but I truly believed that he loved me. I know that I hurt him really badly and I wish that I could take back the bad things but that is impossible. I don't really believe that he doesn't love me any more - I think that he just wants to get over me so he told me that. I want him back but I don't know how to get him back. I don't feel complete without him. He told a friend of mine that if we were around each other, he might be able to get those feelings back but I am afraid to be around him because I might break down. I don't want him back out of pity - I want him back because he loves me. What should I do?
When boys get hurt they often can't figure it out themselves and don't know how to talk to anyone else about it.
So, their hurt keeps growing and growing. The same thing happens with girls. For this reason, each partner in a couple should be very careful about saying things about breaking up.
You are going to have to take a chance if you want him back. You will need to approach him and ask him if he is willing to talk about giving another try. You said you don't want to be taken back out of pity, I really don't think anyone would do something like that out of pity.
Hope this works out for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com