Am I wrong or gross/yucky for feeling that way?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Ok, I have a second part to my first question, the original question was about my girlfriend being naked in a hot tub with some of her friends, I did get the answer I was looking for. The answer was to get in the hot tub with her and her friends to see what it's like, and that my feelings of jealousy were normal. Now I want to know ho do I tell her that my feelings of jealousy were normal? Everytime we talk about my feelings, she says that it is a gross/yucky thing (to her) that I am feeling that way, and that I am associating her with being a sex object, and a possesion. I have tried to help her understand that my feelings are more from me being new to the idea of being nude in front of others, but she insists that my feelings are coming from some disgusting place... Are my feelings really normal? Am I wrong or gross/yucky for feeling that way? PLEASE HELP!!!!!
I would forget trying to argue with her.
She is making an argument that can't be refuted because nobody really knows what the sources of jealousy or any other emotion are. So she can say your feelings come from a yukky place and you could say they come from a good place (an instinct to preserve a good relationship, for example).
At any rate, just don't go there. Tell her that you want to try it out and see how good it is and then you won't have any problems.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com