Is he a "sugar daddy" ?Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
i' ve been dating a wonderful,caring, handsome man over 20 years older than me for 7 months now. he's a wonderful,loving man who makes me feel like a queen wherever we go or do. people stare because of the age difference but we have gotten more compliments because we do look good together! we have many things in common: our ex spouses, children the same age( they get along famously), music,family values, spiritual philosophys etc. we travel together central america, nyc, wined and dined me. my divorce was pretty financially devastating and left me to start over as if i just graduated college, only now with the responsiblity of child and mother dependants. my "guy" has been there for me in everyway practically since we met. he would do for me without me even asking at one point. but now i actually ask for help with a sincere need/necessity--i have had no heat in my home for going on 10 days now (it's below zero wind chill) and am struggling to make ends meet( i'm used to a standard way of life,from 6 figure income then, to unemployment now)and he's become tentative , distant and indifferent. I asked him in a letter what was going on with him and haven't gotten a response. i have fallen for this man , not because of finance but because he has shown me he is a man of character but i wonder if i have given my heart too soon. i love him and don't want to be without him. i'm not a golddigger nor am i a user but he has told me he's been used in the past and i fear he thinks i am like the others--i'm certainly not. how do i show him i love and care for him even if he cannot fulfill all of my financial needs? i miss him and don't want to use or lose him.
fallen too soon?
You and he need to have a long, serious, caring, honest talk about what is going on.
Show him what you wrote us and between that and the letter you should have a lot to talk about.
It's hard to say what is motivating him right now but you need to find out.
Oh, and look for a job if you aren't doing so.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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