Wow..you have a great relationship, and it's nothing but stupidity
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
This is not very short, but please help out. It's your job, and i need your help.
Hello Hello. Well my boyfriend and I have been going out for over 7 months now. Things ran real smooth in the beggining four months. Then from then on rocky ass roads came in... Such as: Him just not being around anymore. Either he's with his friends or just too lazy to call. Now those were past problems that i did nothing about and waited to let it slide..but apparantly saving things up causes only the worst to happen. Well, recently he has been acting so careless. One day he makes a mistake, calls two days later, apologizes..and then i have these twisted emotions again. It's just recently, i've been rally thinking upon the word "love", and realized everyone has a differen't definition and idea of what it is. So, everyone's perspective is just so differen't...thats why people fight. Perfect example of me and my boyfriend. We are two complete opposites, I mean when it comes to music and food..same exact..but emotions and treating me like i deserve, it's total BS. The thing that completley blew it off was today. I went over to his HS cause i didn't see him the other day so I thought Id see him today. I went over with a friend of mine and then we see him leaving with his friend. He absolutly knew i.d come, which confuses me beyond imagination. Then we yell his name three times and he finally turns with an irritated look on his face. Then i asked him if he's walking home (same why i walk home may i add), with his friend, he said yes. Basicilly blowing me off. So, he gave me a hug, said i love you, and will call you. I smiled, gave him a tap on the back with my hand and walked off. Then he said "wow, your mad now aren't you." I said "Nah, I have m* to be with, day will turn out great". Basicilly..what this is, is a game. He does something, I do something, then we end up in each others arms. But sometimes games are enough, There's a point in your life where you realize that wow..you have a great relationship, and its nothing but stupidity. I think i just answered my own question/comment, but what do you think i should do? Talk to him i definatly will...But what to say...?
To have a relationship you need two people.
You sound like you are working hard at keeping the relationship going but he isn't doing his part. That's the main message you need to get over to him.
Do this gently and lovingly, honestly and openly in a nice long conversation.
He will get defensive because he knows he is in the wrong. So be prepared for some unhappiness from him. But just ignore it and stay calm and loving with him. Just for this talk, treat him like a scared little puppy. Otherwise he should be acting like a man.
At the same time you need to point out to him where he can improve himself so that you will find his behavior acceptable. Do not be afraid to tell him you are dissatisfied with the current situation.
Hope this works out for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com