I am a lot more loose around her and she flirts an awful lot with me

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Ight so this gurl J* is like my life, she dont realize how much i care for her even though i tell her. J* and i have been friends from 6th grade to 9th grade and this year my 10th grade year i really opened up and told her that i like her and that i wanna be with her. Well she decided that she dosen't wanna risk a good four years of frienship and one year of close friendship over a relationship. She says that frendships last forever and relationships dont, so in other words she dosent wanna lose me. But i told her i value our friendship very much i jus think we should give it a shot, and she simply says no because she dosent wanna lose me, well i kinda took that and ate it up and figured i need to get a lil more flirty, so i am alot more loose around her and she flirts an awful lot with me, and i keep it on her mind that i still wanna be with her, but she says she only dates older guys (most people would think that this is a sign that shes outta my league but shes not) she says that she dosent like to date in the 15 year old range cause theres too much drama, which there is, but that dont mean that she need to date 19 and 20 year old guys, but anyway, i jus need to know whether or not i should give up on a relationship or should i keep trying, i love her to death and she loves me to death we say it every night almost, but she wont give me a chance, oh and by the way our friendship has really moved foward cause im always coming to her house to jus talk or to jus chill, or run to tha store, and i bouth her a early christmas present and it was a $100 playboy jacket and she loves it more than any gift shes gonna get. Shes single and i told her i still wanna be with her so bad (that might be a little to obsessive) but she knows how i am. We are both 15 makin 16 in a month or two. Thanks for the advise in advance, sorry it is a long one but i needed help bad.

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Keep up the flirting.

It is possible that the flirting will inflame her feelings for you.

People change their minds all the time so there is no reason why she should not change her mind and decide to go out with you.

Don't give up! George

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