I've been talking to this guy for 4 years and we are both in love.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I DATED THIS GUY WHEN I WAS A FRESHMAN IN HIGH SCHOOL, HE WAS A SENIOR BACK THEN. SO WE DATED FOR ABOUT A MONTH OR LESS,BOTH KNOWING THAT I WAS MOVING OUT OF STATE. SO I DID MOVE OUT OF STATE AND I THOUGHT THAT WAS THE END OF THE RELATIONSHIP BUT I COULDNT GET HIM OFF MY MIND SO I DECIDED TO CALL HIM AFTER 3 MONTHS OF BEING AWAY. WE HAVE BEEN TALKING EVER SINCE ON THE PHONE. HE LIVES 18 HOURS AWAY FROM WHERE I LIVE. THROUGHOUT THE TIME WE HAVE BEEN TALKING WE BOTH HAVE DATED OTHER PEOPLE BUT HAVING IN MIND THAT WE BOTH ARE CRAZY ABOUT EACHOTHER,IN LOVE.WE JUST DATE BECAUSE WE DONT WANT TO BE ALONE. SO MY QUESTION IS... I BEEN TALKING TO THIS GUY FOR 4 ALMOST 5 YEARS NOW HE HAS VISITED ME AND WE ARE BOTH IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER, THE PROBLEM IS I AM NOW 18 AND GOING TO A UNIVERSITY AND HE IS STILL AWAY WITH A GREAT JOB, I DONT WANT TO LEAVE SCHOOL, HE DOES NOT WANT TO LEAVE HIS JOB BUT WE BOTH WANT AND NEED TO BE WITH EACH OTHER, WE WANT TO GET MARRIED. WHAT SHOULD I DO? GO TO LIVE WITH HIM? I REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HIM I KNOW HE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVISE...
There must be something wrong with the obvious suggestion but I'll make it anyway.
Why don't you go to a University where he lives? Have him investigate and see what is available or get on the Internet and look for yourself.
If that can't work out then there are three other options (none of them very good):
1. You postpone college and go live with him.
2. He moves to your University town and you live together
3. You both wait another four years before getting together.
It's up to you what you want to do.
Best of luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com