I just have this big feeling that she's developed feelings for him somewhere along the way
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hey, ive been kinda suspicious of my gf and this other guy she met through her cousin a long time ago. they've been friends and stuff but recently ive been noticing a few things between the two of them. ok first off, my gf and i have been going out for 9 months. shes my first gf but shes had many bf's before me but ive been her longest relationship by far. and ive been one out of 2 that shes actually loved. now, most of her old bf's she dumped because she usually finds another guy she likes more and then just breaks it off and goes out with the other guy. but we have both talked about this and she said that since we've been through so much together that she wouldnt do that to me. she said this between 8 and 9 months of us going out. now, this friend of hers. i first noticed it when we went to this coffee shop to see some local bands, her friend was in one of them. i was having a great time till her friends band went up to play. she got right up infront of him so that she was right there infront of him facing him while they were playing. i was standing right behind her and noticed that the two of them would just stare at each other for long periods of time while the band was playing. one of them even lasted a whole song. so yeah, it botherd me a bit but not much. then like a week later we went to another coffee shop to see the same band play. it was the same thing, she got right up infront of and did the stareing thing again. but this time she kinda scooted to the side a bit and i got up infront of her so i was infront of him and she was behind me a bit. then i looked back and she seemed really sad and was kinda pouting so i felt bad and let her back up and then the stareing started again. and now his birthday is coming up this saturday. were going to a concert the same day but we plan on going to his party for at least the last 30 minutes of it. i mean, i think its completely pointless cause he lives like 30 minutes away too. but my gf just seems hellbent on getting there no matter how long were there. she even said that shed go even if me and her best friend ended up not wanting to go. so yeah. im kinda confused about this. i know she told me that she wouldnt break up with me for another guy but things have been kinda sketchy between us lately. i know that there just friends right now too but idk, i just have this big feeling that shes developed feelings for him some where along the way. well, i think i got that all down as clear as i could. your advice and help will be greatly apreciated.
I understand how you feel.
Perhaps it's time for you to have a long and loving talk with your g/f and ask her how she feels about this other guy. She's the only one who knows why she stares at him when he is playing and how much she cares for him.
That's my advice and I hope it turns out well for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com