I SAID THE ASIAN WOMAN
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
months before getting married to the love of my life, she posed what seemed to be a harmless question. What is my FANTASY girl. I said an asian woman. she then asked if you didnt know me. saw me at my best and came up to me in a bar. lets say, and your fantasy woman. who would you be attracted to. well like a idiot, I SAID THE ASIAN WOMAN. I looked at this question as hipothetical. I dont understand were she was going with this. but I do find asian woman attractive just like any other ATTRACTIVE woman. I really dont have a prefference. I TRULY feel she is as attactive as any fantasy woman I could amagine. but she is so much more. she is my true fantasy woman, she lives up to what a mans fantasy is all about. a true GOD sent.I just didnt know at the time what she was tring to get at. she is everything to me. I dont have to fantasize. I am living it. my problem is I cant live it down. I really dont feel that way, I didnt think the question through. anytime she sees a asian woman, she asked if thats what my fantasy looks like. I just feel terrible. she tells me she cant be my fantasy woman because shes not asian looking. The problem is magnified by the fact, she has said to me I am the type of man she has fantasized and dreamed about her whole adult life. She is the same for me. She just cant believe my now. Everytime I think she is past this, it pops up again. I REALLY made a mistake. nobody can compair to her in anyway shape or form. I just cant get her to accept this. please help. I love her soooo much and wish I never said such an insencitive thing. I do this sometimes and allways regret it.
You probably can't undo this damage. Time may heal it some.
Perhaps you could explain that the hypothetical asian woman was your choice just for a date but not for a long term relationship. Which proves the point that your actual preference is for her not some unknown stranger.
You may need to get professional counseling to resolve your problems.
Best of luck to you! George
p.s. I would have told her a REDHEAD... so you aren't the only dork.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com