2 weeks ago she came over to my 2 year old brother's birthday party
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
my ex- girlfriend broke up with me about 9 months ago after a 5 year relationship that started in high school. I dont think there has been a day that i havent thought about her. We broke up due to my stupidity, being the young guy i am I started to party a little to much and she thinks thats how i was going to be the rest of my life. At the same time, to make things worse, i stopped taking classes at college and didnt spend much time with her. She also says that she wasnt happy at all times in our relationship. The break up really shook me and made me think a little about what i was doing. Since the break up I have went back to school and slowed down the partying to a minimum to get my life back on track. Me and her have kept in contact through-out the break up vowing we would still be good-friends. I usually call her once a week just to see how she is doing and we usually have about a 15 minute conversation. Currently she is in a long distance relationship with this guy that she only sees on the basic college breaks. She met him at college and then he moved to a different college across country. she says she is with him just because its "different". Being the guy that i am i got kinda worried and started to beg her to forgive me, and just give me another chance. The thing she always says is "if its meant to be we will be back together". This always gets me because I just dont know what she is feeling right now. It is really hard for me to be persistent and patient at the same time. Another thing is about 2 weeks ago she came over to my 2 year old brother birthday party just because she wanted to see him and how much he has grown. Do you think this was just a friendly act or was it more of a relationship thing? do you think i may still have a chance or should i just throw in the towel? If I do Have a chance what should i do? should I just keep on staying in touch and hope that "if its meant to be we will be together" b/c i really dont know how much longer i can take it. please help me out. thanks
You are doing just the right thing by making short weekly calls.
This lets you know she is ok, gives you the opportunity to let her know how you feel, and maintains contact. It may be time to stretch the length of your calls to 20-30 mins if she sounds interested.
I agree that her visit to your brother's birthday party might be a good sign that she is thinking more favorably about you now.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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