He was flirting and looking into my eyes for so long. I felt so good...I was happy

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I am doing this for the first time and i dont know if you are going to help me. So here is my story...
Before 2 months ago, i had problems in computer science class, so i asked my friend to help me to find someone to tutor me. Ok after the second time of tutoring, i relized that i like the guy, because he is funny and makes me laugh and also he is honest and nice with me. So i asked him once if he wants to go out, and he agreed. Then we went to the cinema, but not alone. My friend and my sister came too. The movie we watched was not that cool, but the thing was HE came because he wanted to be with us. And i was happy and excited. Few days later, we talked on the phone and then on msn and he told me that he has a girlfriend, but she is 6 months in Portugal. Then i asked him if they are still together, and he said that he thinks they are, but the is not sure. Then i asked him if he still loves her, he gave me that stupid answer, well not that stupid, but i didnt like it "Well its not that i dont care about her, and i am not sure.." So i was like oh thanks for ur honesty, but i didnt say that. Then i realized that he was really honest and not many guys would say that to some girl. But then i asked him, "so how are u still in a relationship if u havent seen her for 6 months, isnt it dificult"?- Yes, he said and i am not even sure thats the best, i dont think that this kind of relation works....Ok ok so i wasnt sure what to do...And i said to my self i should stop thinking about him, because it was obvious that he cares about the girl "who has the same name as me!" Then we talked more and more....So we realized that we are two opposits that are trying to do something. He likes thing that i dont like ...etc But then i said well we can balance the things, if we want to stay together ( i guess as a good friends, and he agreed. We have seen each other many times, and this friday he called me on phone and said what are u doing tonight? I said that i have nothing planed, but we can go everuwhere execept cinema. I suggested Irish Pub (in Toronto). We went there had a good time....But i didnt understand why evry time he was talking to me he was so close to me, even that we were siting across. He was smiling, and flerting and i was surprised and i didnt really expected that.Also every time i said something cool he would say "hi 5" and after the hi 5 he would hold my hand. I was little confused...maybe he was too. Then we decided to go for a walk....and it was good...After the short walk, he took his car and we went for a drive in downtown. And again he was flerting and looking into my eyes for so long. I felt so good..i was happy. We end up in front of my building, siting in his car and listenign to the radio... and we were holding our hands again...Ok i really like when he holds my hand, i relly do. And thats it...we didnt even kissed, but i really really wanted to...but i was afraid that was not the right moment. Ok so the thing is that i am more and more confused about my feelings, because i am not sure what he wants with me. does he hopes his girl will come back ,and he will try to talk to her to see if they gona stay together ad we gona stay only friends, or something else? I dont know if all those moments happen because he likes me, but he is not sure if something should happen between us, or he is just provoking me to see my reaction?

RomanceClass.com Advice
The question is have you stolen his heart or is he having a romantic fling with you?

The answer may be any of the above. Clearly he likes you a lot but is a bit shy. He may also be thinking of his far away girlfriend.

My advice is to pose the question to him. Am I just a fling or is it the real thing? It is an honest, open question which he is probably as interested as you in discussing it. Don't pressure him to choose you over her as that would be unfair to all three of you. Good decisions are usually not made under pressure when it comes to love.

Hope this works out for you! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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