I made all the mistakes including begging, crying, calling her too much
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend and I broke up about two months ago. She claims that she wanted to break up for a very long time before that because she stopped loving me. Since we broke up, she all of a sudden got hooked with this other kid, which I of course assume is nothing more than a rebound. He consumes her life, and she is dedicating all her time to him. She has pushed the rest of her life aside for this guy. They already say "I love you" and it hasnt even been two full months yet. I am really beginning to lose hope that she'll ever find it in her heart to give me another chance.
I made all the mistakes including begging, crying, calling her too much. Now I want to take the most logical approach. Hoping that her relationship with this kid is the typical rebound that never lasts, I hope to pursue a close friendship with my ex girlfriend in hopes that she'll start seeing something in me again that she saw when she loved me. I need your advice as to what I should do.
How often should I contact her, whether it's email, instant messenger, or phone? How should I approach my friendship with her? Finally, how long should I wait before it seems hopeless and start trying to move on?
Yes you did make all the mistakes.
But your idea about becoming good friends is an excellent one. My advice is to call her once a week to see how she is doing, to let her know you care, and to maintain contact. Don't discuss your relationship, be cheerful, and limit the call to 15 mins.
How long should you keep trying? If you are making no progress try 3-6 months. But if you detect progress continue on.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com