What will my parents think of me if they find out that i did have sex
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i am 15 going on 16 and i just started dating one of my good friends and he keeps talking about how he wants to be with me and about having sex. i dont know what to say to him cause im scared if i say no im not ready that he wont have interset in me anymore and plus im scared if i do have sex that it will hurt really bad so and what will my parents think of me if they find out that i did have sex so please i need advice from someone!
ready is a very important thing. You probably don't think about it
much at the time, but the moment you lose your virginity is really
something you remember for the Rest of Your Entire Life. It's something
friends always ask you about. It's something new boyfriends ask you about.
It's something your kids, if you have kids, are really eager to know. It's
one of those Turning Moments in your life. And if it's a decision you make
poorly, it's something that can haunt you for the rest of your life. "I
lost my virginity in a slimy hotel". "I gave it up in the back seat of a
car." It might seem like a fun adventure at the time, but after a few
months it begins to feel really ... icky and nasty. Never let anyone
pressure you into anything. The perfect sex is about you feeling REALLY
GOOD. Sex is about feeling great about YOURSELF. If someone has to talk
you into it, it's WRONG. If the situation feels uncomfortable, it's WRONG.
Life is way too short to be doing things that you don't enjoy. It's YOUR
life, it's YOUR body. Wait until it's someone that you are REALLY
comfortable with, that you love being with, that you love touching, that
you love touching you, and that you're in a PLACE that you feel totally
comfortable. Believe me, you'll know it when you find it, and when you
find the right partner. In that situation, it can be a completely amazing
experience. If instead, you let someone pressure you (even gently with "I
really love you!") then you'll feel icky for the rest of your life, and
something which could have been beautiful and romantic will now be forever
Sex for the first time can hurt a lot or not at all; and, your parents would be very, very disappointed in you if they found out. But the main thing is how you would feel about yourself.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com