He was jewish and I was muslim
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I went out with my coworker. We knew each other mostly by names cuz we were going to the same school before and maybe had talked a couple fo times before. We started dating as soon as i started working at this place he was working. he really liked me from the begining and the relationship was going really well. we went out for 2 1/2 months. all his friends knew me by the end and they liked me. the only problem that we had from the beginign was that he wass jewish and i was muslim. we knew that from the begining but we both decided to give it a shot. since it was just more of a concern for our families not us. But as soon as we started dating my family(parents and sister) they got really upset to a point that my mom was not talking to me anymore and they wanted this relationship to be stopped. my dad had seen him once and he thought he was too imature for me and that was another reason they wanted me to stop it. anyways, I was sharing these trouble with him talking about it... on the other side his family was also really strict about it. they wanted him to go out with a jewish girl. his mom was constantly putting him under pressure to do so. that is why he couldn't even tell her that he was dating a muslim! during our relationship he kept reminding me how he was appreciating me and how he sees this difference in culture as a good point and he didn't want it to end. so everything was going well but during the last two weeks of the relationship he became all of a suuden a bit cold, not putting too much effor seeing each other outside of work place. and whenever i asked him out he was too tired and said we woudl see each other tomoroow at work..but we all know it is not the same thing. then one day i got so fed up with it that i gave him all his personal stuff back at work without talking about the relationship. he didn't say a word. then i called him up a coupel of days later since it didn't seem he wanted to talk about it. I wanted to clarify thing and tlak so when finally i persuaded him to come and talk he said that he doesn't want to do this anymore because it is not going to work at the end becasue of the religions and he went on and on how we need our parents support in life...so he couldn't do it...and when i told him but we knew this from the beginign he said that he was tempted! because he liked me and it was his hormones talking!
anyways now it is about 2 months after and we see each other at work...we are only talking about work other wise we are like two strangers. our work place is a very small place with not a lot of people who work there. and everybody is friends beyond the work level...but us that is the only thing we talk about and that is if we have to. i really love him mostly because he made me believe that he wanted the relationship so i let myself fell this way for him. now i don't knwo what to do. but i want him back..eventhough i don't show it at all at work... iam acting as if i am living my life very happy and hanging out with friends but deep down in side i am sad. and advice would help
A true life Romeo and Juliet... two young lovers kept apart by their families.
But in this case, he has backed away from the relationship. Realistically there isn't much you can do about this situation except to get over it. That's hard to do working with him every day... perhaps you could work some other place?
Sorry you are in this situation! George
-- from George
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