I recently found out that this same girl emails him frequently-a few times a week
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Here is my concern,
I have been seeing a guy for 6 months. He has plenty of baggage, in the way of an ex wife, and children (from a recent ex girlfriend). Funny thing is, I am not jealous of either. However, before we were dating, we were friends and he happened to mentiion an ex he dated 6 years ago, implying that he had really been in love with her, she rejected him, etc.
I recently found out that this same girl emails him frequently-a few times a week. I told him that I thought that was a little excessive, and since I knew how much he had loved her, it made me uncomfortable. His kids were recently born, and she saw pictures of them before me. That bothered me. As his girlfriend I feel that the personal issues of his life should not be shared with her, and I don't understand why he is so relucatant to cut ties with her, or atleast quit responding to her emails when he knows I hate it.
Like I said, I am not jealous of the other women that were a part of his life, not even his ex wife, but for some reason I am jealous of this girl.
Is it unreasonable for me to ask/expect him to discontinue contact with this woman?
If you make him stop contacting that woman, he will just resent it and it will affect your relationship. And, he will probably do it behind your back.
You've only been seeing him for six months, so bide your time. Continue to let him know (in a nice way) that it hurts you when he emails her and as time goes by he will make a decision on his own.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com