I'm easy to talk to and outgoing, and I was voted cutest in my class
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hey! I'm 16 and a junior in high school. I dated a guy for a month last year at the beginning of the school year and then he broke up with me for a senior girl. This girl has a reputation for being slutty. I'm not like that. He dated her for the rest of the school year and then he broke up with her right when summer started. We started talking again at the beginning of the school year this year, but then he changed his mind and said that he didnt want a girlfriend at the time. About 2 weeks later i find out that he's dating a freshman. (He's a junior too) I don't understand. I'm well liked in school,i have a 3.9 GPA,i'm a cheerleader, i have a lot of friends, i'm easy to talk to and outgoing, and i was voted cutest in my class. I just dont see why the cute quaterback of the varsity football team would want to date a freshman. I guess it's because she might be slutty. Sometimes i catch him looking at me in class or in the halls. Sometimes it seems like he trys to get my attention by talking loud or acting goofy. I just dont understand. If he decided that he didnt want to be with me then why is he always looking at me? He made me really mad because he broke up with me last year for a senior that isnt that attractive and when he decided that he didnt want to start a relationship with me this year because he wanted to be with a freshman! I just ignore him now. I dont look at him and i dont talk to him. His mom and i are close and she told me that he really really likes me because she says that they talk about me sometimes. I dont see how he can really like me if he chose to be with someone else over me twice! He's never really had that much to say to me, even when he first met me. Is he shy around me? He talks to all the other girls at school but me. The classes that i have with him, he talks to all the girls in the room but me. He even did this before i started ignoring him. How do you think he feels about me? Why do i always catch him looking at me if he decided that he didnt want to be with me and why am i the only girl at school that he doesnt talk to? Does he like me or not? Please help me.
You are ignoring him and he is ignoring you.
One of you will have to break this deadlock and it will have to be you. Start saying "hi" to him with a big smile and I assure you he will start talking to you again.
You didn't say you liked him or wanted to get back together with him. You simply said you were puzzled by his behavior. I can't explain his behavior except for my observation that you two are in a deadlock.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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