I've never stopped loving her, I just wanted her to show me the same love back, not play games
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex dumped me 8 months ago because her friends told her too, very immature. We are both 22 i should add. She started playing games with me from the start of the break up making it very difficult for me to even talk to her. So i gave her no contact for a few weeks, and she kept trying to contact me, but it was just not the right time for me due to circumstances with her friends. The whole summer we did not speak and she kept writing all these wierd things in her aim profile, which were clearly about me. We broke up in may, and did not talk again till september. Me and her had a wonderful night in school again then she started writing more wierd things about me in her profile, things like i love you but we can no be etc. I did not try anything. Her and I have been talking on and off since then but recently something happened. Me and her had a great week talking one week, then the next a friend of hers, and a previous friend of mine came up to school to visit her. Now they are a couple. I am very confused about the whole situation, Me and her were back talking like boyfriend and girlfriend again, then this guy comes and they are together, now she does not speak to me, nor i speak to her. The whole situation with this guy is very sketchy as well, he was a former friend of mine that always had a thing for her, but she did not like him due to a drug problem and he used to be with her best friend, She would tell me how much she disliked the guy. Now they are dating? I will admit, i may have taken the whole show her your not interested thing and she will miss you more rutine to a new level, but now that she is gone, or at least wants me to know shes over me, I realize just how much i love her. Ive never stoped loving her, I just wanted her to show me the same love back, not play games. What do I do to get her back? What are the right ways to show her I still care for her, and that I think dating a scumbag is not the right thing for her. She thinks I am over her, how do I go about all this.
Sounds to me that you were the one playing games.
Your standoffishness to her when you really cared was not a good idea, as you now realize. Now your ex friend has her and you want her back.
If you want her back you are going to have to first get back to a talking relationship with her and then after a while have talks of reconciliation.
To get back to talking you should call her once a week just to see how she is doing, to let her know you still care, and to maintain contact. Do not discuss your relationship. Be cheerful and do not talk more than 15 mins.
This won't be easy to do, but it may re-open the lines of communications. Later, if things go well, you could begin talking about getting back together.
Hope this helps. Good luck! George
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