she wanted to save our "marriage" instead of our relationship
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My wife and I have been divorced for about a year, and were seperated for about a year-and-a-half prior. What caused me to leave was still loveing her and only feeling that she wanted to save our "marriage" instead of our relationship. and not wanting to end up bitter and not loving her at all.
I've wanted to try again the whole time, but never got any sense that she really "wanted" me. Now she's with someone else and making every effort to be with him that I needed to feel, and seems to want to rub my face in it at every opportunity she gets. and it's making me nuts. We also have two boys, who I feel are being manipulated by her and her boyfriend into "replacing" me as their father figure.
Other than that, we get along great and I do still love her very much. I want her back, or at least a chance to try again.
You haven't lived together for 2 1/2 years, she apparently didn't love you, and now she has a boyfriend and they seem to be clicking.
There doesn't seem to be much hope for you to have a second chance at this point in time. My advice is to wait until she splits up with this boyfriend before you ask her for another chance.
On the other hand, you have nothing to lose by asking her now.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com