Is he Interested?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been talking to this guy on the phone about 2-3 times a week for about 3 weeks. We made plans to go out but he ended up canceling because he had to go to an art gallery and work. I really like this guy... and i'm the one who asked for his number. When we talk on the phone he is really nice and he said that "he'll make time for me" he also said "sorry pooh bear" online.
I can't tell if hes JUST BEING NICE. I've been trying to call him but i can never seem to catch him. I feel so insecure since we haven't established anything... hes a really nice guy and a good looker. In general- is it too pushy to be calling a guy? What should i do? Should i be frank with him or go with the flow? I don't want to scare him off, now i feel what guys go through when THEY are the ones interested in the girls... Help!
It's been perfectly normal for girls to call guys for decades now :) Girls call guys all the time, and in fact I bet that girls call guys more often than guys call girls. Many times the guy is shy and is very, very happy that the girl is doing the calling.
It sounds like he's just busy and probably welcomes the breaks that your calls give him. He would let you know if he didn't want you calling him! And you're not calling him 8 times a day. So I would keep up the contact, keep being friendly. Hopefully sometime soon you guys will hook up. In the meantime, does he have email? Sometimes email helps out, because you can talk when you have time and that way you might be able to communicate more often.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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