I promised myself that i WON'T go out with him again.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
In May my ex and i were going out.We broke up after the holidays in July i think it was.Suposingly we broke up because of the cause of age differences.I'm 14 he's 17. He wanted to do more sexual things (not sex) that i didn't want to do at this time of my life. I was mad about this guy.I was so happy and secure around him.The whole school basically knew of us 2, even when we broke up.I have NEVER been so intemite,nor have i Ever felt this way b4,i did silly things over him too. I was i stupid then to think that it could be real.... love. But obversly it was only puppy love.After a couple of weeks we went out again but it didn't work out, we agreed to rather stay friends, so we did. I ended up admitting (more like lying) to my friends and fellow class mates that i hated him cause he also lied and used me.(long story but he did, he even admitted it).My friends didn't like him much cause they thought he treated me like SH**. Since we broke up i have missed him, quite a bit.When i'd walk past him i would say bad things about him to my friends but thought of the good memories we shared.It slowly came to me that i still like him.I promised myself that i WON'T go out with him again. This is where ANOTHER lie came in and why he used me. One of my class mate-friends told me something very shocking.I told her at 1st that 'he' only went out with me cause one of his friends said so ('he' told me that himself). Thats when my friend told me a different story. She said that these guys in my grade told him to go out with me and ask to have sex with me, but he and his friends said that i won't cause i'm in grade 8. (THEY WERE RIGHT THERE!but he didn't ask me)I told her that i didn't really care cause he's past.(lying!!??) It broke my heart!
He recently told me that he's sorry that we broke up, and that he wants to be more than friends (he knows i don't).The only thing i told him is that i still care for him as a friend.NO one else knows i've got feelings for him except for my 2 of 3 of my best friends.
i am so confused! What do i do ,what am i feeling?
You are confused.
You write that you want your ex back but when he asks you out you tell him you only like him as a friend.
Think hard about it and if you really want him back tell him you will go out with him and that you are sorry for all the lies you told.
You are very smart to refuse to have sex with him because you are too young (as you said) and because he could go to jail.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com