she may change her mind, if not right away, someday

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have really liked my friend for a few years now and i was always uncertain of how she felt, there has always been this "uncomfortableness" with us because we were never sure of how the other felt. we are both currently single. well today she called me and brought it up and we talked for over an hour, i totally poured out my heart to her and she was shocked, she didn’t know how i felt. it turns out we both think very highly of one another, basically perfect for one another, the only difference is she doesn’t like me “like that”. before I hung up I had to ask her if she thought things would ever change with us, and she replied "she didn’t know, it might"and said "but I will tell you this, if I change my mind I will tell you right away, I wont hesitate, ill tell you i want to go out". I said "well let me just say this then, I will respect your choice to be friends but whether it be tomorrow, next week or next year, if you change your mind the answer from me will always be yes, you will always have an open invitation with me, if maybe someday you start thinking about people or us and you start to think about giving us a chance, the answer will be yes" and she said “ok”. her response made me happy because she answered me immediately, like she didnt have to think about it. granted it wasnt a yes but it wasnt a no. my parents and friends I have shared this conversation with have told me now that we have gotten this out in the open and she knows how I feel, and has all of this on her mind, she may change her mind, if not right away, someday. am I right to be cautiously optimistic about what she said? what do you guys think? I really feel we will be together someday. thank you Advice
I think you should be very optimistic.

Her response was very much in your favor. True, she still has a boyfriend and that is a large hurdle to get over. But at least you got it all out in the open now and you won't feel so uncomfortable.

It's good to hear that you talk with your parents about this, it's always good to have support at home.

Good luck! George

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