I just feel the cold shoulder I'm getting from her is inappropriate
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex-fiancee and I have now been broke up for about 1.5 months now. I read all of the tips to use but one problem she says it is akward to see me or talk to me right now. The last time I talked to her was nov.2 when she came to my house to pick up her things and we kept it freindly. The reason for her leaving she says is she was not happy anymore and I couldn't give her what she needs which she said she needs to be alone. She only said she was unhappy because of some arguements where some hurtful things were said but she cannot give an example. For the last two years I've been raising her daugter who is now three and she claims she is doing what's best for her and her daughter. All of this caught me off guard because we still would talk about our wedding and our future and out of nowhere she wants to leave. This year I have been on a downslide professionally and I'm not making the money I was hoping to secure our future. I don't think it is a material thing but she won't talk to me about anything. I still send friendly text messages once in a while and sometimes she responds and sometimes she doesn't. I feel I should stop contacting her because it usally hurts me more but I was really into this relationship with her and her daughter who calls me Daddy so I like to keep up on things. She does have two girls that she works with who are miserably in there relationships so I think they were jelous of what we had because even the real fathers of there kids don't do half as much as I did for her daughter. I want to have hope and pray she is confused and she will see the good we had. She stated she has learned from her past and she is smart enough noe to know when to cut her loses. I know I was nothing like her past boyfriends in that I never yelled at her,never called her names,and never cheated on her. I just feel the cold shoulder I'm getting from her is inappropriate and I feel she is just ungrateful. What do I do?
Yes the cold shoulder does seem inappropriate, but you can't argue with feelings.
I will suggest what I normally do for these situations: call her once a week to see how she is doing, to let her know you still care, and to maintain contact. Don't discuss your relationship. Be cheerful and limit the call to 15 mins. This will give her the space she needs and give you the contact you need.
Depending on how these conversations go, you can determine for yourself if there is any hope of reconciliation.
Also, here are some tips on how to get your ex back:
Good luck! George
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