I can't say no to my old flame!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I attempted to have my first one night stand, it has since lasted for over three years. We have never been in an exclusive relationship, and although it started as being physical we have developed a very strong intimate relationship. We have a very strong connection and I know the feeling is mutual, but we have never taken any steps to further our relationship. We have both been in relationships in these three years, I even lived with a man for a year 1/2. For some reason, I can't say no to my old flame! He is the only man I can't say no to and I feel some strange need to return his phone calls and keep in contact with him.
I am now in a new relationship with a great guy but recently the old flame has been calling me again to "check in" and I can't help but think if we were to see each other it would happen again. I don't want to be a cheater but I can't help myself with this man. I'm not ready to lose him, but realize I will never be able to give 100% to someone else unless I do.
I don't know if I should attempt to move towards something more with my old flame or move forward in my current relationship in the hopes of not cheating on him. I would really appreciate a third-party's perspective.
If you can't say no to your old flame, then you will cheat on this new guy given time.
Why not find out from your old flame if he is interested in trying to make your relationship more permanent. If he is willing, then give it a go. If it works out then you live happily ever after. If it doesn't work out then you can go on with your life.
You need to do something to break the cycle.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com