Is it pretty much a nice way of her saying we're done, but i still want u in my life?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
According to my Ex g/f we have been broken up now for about 3 months now... but we were still very affectionate, and shared all the physical things a normal relationship does with having the label, in till about 2 weeks ago when she totally stopped all the kissing... and holding... and stuff i things i was used to. We orginally took that break to give us some space... but we were still always very close, and she always talked about when i would ask her again. She told me that it shouldn't have been anything knew to me because i had know for 3 months we had been broken up. I love this girl to death, we have been through sooo much together and shared so many great expierences, but we also faught every now and then like every other people in a relationship do. She tells me she still loves me, and i ask her if we will ever be able to go out again... and she says she doesnt know the future. She has been hanging out with this guy a lot lately. almost 2 times a day. in the begining she said they were only friends and that she would never get into a relationship with him because i meant too much to her and she would never do that to me. But a few days ago i asked her again, and she said yes i see him being more then just a friend... but it doesnt mean i want to be his g/f. I happen to know her friend but not very well, so i decided to talk to him because i felt there was something she wasnt telling me and it was killing me. Her friend said yes that they have been hanging out a lot lately, and that they havent anything serious but hold each other while they watch T.V. When he told me that it crushed me. I told her about the conversation and she wasnt mad that i talked him. she said that i would have found out one way or another that they were doing that, but it dont mean that she was his g/f. SHe still tells me she love me.. and talks to me everyday... we just dont share any kind of intimite moment like we used to... nor do we hang out as much as we used to. Have i lost her to this guy?? Do u think i have a chance of ever getting back with her again with the way things are going...... or is it pretty much a nice way of her saying we're done, but i still want u in my life?
For the time being you should consider yourself an ex b/f with no benefits.
Keep in touch with her and don't talk about your relationship but still let her know that you miss her and care about her. Don't overdo it because it could drive her away.
She could change her mind at any minute. And, it doesn't sound like she is very close with this new guy anway.
So stick with it and good thing may come your way.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com