He tells me that he wants to have friendships with his ex's and if I don't like it to hit the road
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been dating someone for 3 months who has been divorced once and is going thru his 2nd divorce now. They have been split up for a year now but he seems to still be holding on to their relationship. When I run to the store he calls her about stupid random things and tells me he has no feelings for her and i'm being stupid. He tells me that he wants to have friendships with both of his ex's and if I don't like it to hit the road. I don't have a problem with him having to talk with them pertaining to the children but anything outside of that bothers me. He keeps his wedding ring in his drawer along with the pictures of their honey moon. Am I trying to make something work that isn't there or should I back off? Do you think he still has feelings for his ex? She cheated on him with his cousin and there still together. I personally think it bothers him so bad he can't get over it!!! I need to know what to do quick! Thanks----Heather fro Kansas City, MO
You're going to have to live with him having a relationship with his ex's or you are going to have to hit the road.
So, the decision is up to you. Are you threatened by the worry that he might get back together with either one of them? That seems unlikely to me--that he would go back to one of them.
But, it is your choice. It depends how how much of an irritant it is to you when he contacts them.
Do you want to be with him a year from now or without him?
Good luck! George
-- from George
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