Now I'm stuck on how to feel, what to do to win her back
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
IM 18, MY EX AND I WERE TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS, WE WENT THROUGH EVERYTHING YOU CAN THINK OF, ALL OUR FIRST TIMES TOGETHER, HER FAMILY ADORES ME, MY FAMILY ADORES HER, WE EVEN HAV A GODDAUGHTER TOGETHER. SHES A VERYYYY PROUD AND STUBBORN PERSON, AND FOR 18 MONTHS I PUT UP WITH ALOT OF THINGS, HER HANGING UP ON ME AND EVERYTHING, BUT THE LAST FEW MONTHS I WASNT BECUS I FELT IF SHE LOVED ME SHE WUDNT ACT DAT WAY BUT DEN AGAIN DAS JUS HOW SHE IS. WELL ONE DAY SHE ENDED UP TELLING ME IT WAS OVER, AND FOR A MONTH EVERYTIME WE WUD TALK WE WUD ARGUE BECUS I WANTED A REASON AND ANOTHER CHANCE. WE HAD 6 WEEKS WE DIDNT TALK AT ALL, SO I WENT TO HER HOUSE IN PERSON AND SPOKE TO HER AND TOLD HER HOW I FELT THAT I HAD CHANGED BECUS INDEED I HAVE, AND SHE TOLD ME SHE CUDNT GET BAK WITH ME BECUS SHE DIDNT FEEL DA SAME, DAT SHE DIDNT WANNA HURT ME BUT TRUTH IS I WAS ALREADY HURTING ALOT. WELL TODAY SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME TO MOVE ON, TO NOT GIVE IT HOPE CUS ITS NOT GONNA HAPPEN, BUT I KNO ITS HER BEIN STUBBORN BECUS SHE DOESNT EVEN TRY KNOWIN DAT IF SHE DID I CUD MAKE IT WORK. DURING THIS SHE IS TALKING TO THIS GUY, AND IM NOT SURE IF THEY LIKE EACH OTHER BUT SHES KINDA INTO HIM, BUT HER PARENTS DONT WANT TO KNOW ANYTHING BOUT HIM, HER DAD EVEN CALLED HIM AND TOLD HIM IF HER CALLS HER HE GONNA CALL DA POLICE AND SAY HES ABUSING HIS DAUGHTER. WELL IN DA END OF DA LONGGG CONVO, I CONVINCED HER,AND SHE AGREED TO A MONTH OF TRYING AS FRIENDS TO SEE IF IN THE END SHE CAN FEEL SOMETHIN FOR ME, AND NOW I REALLY WANNA WIN HER BACK, BUT WHAT DO I DO?, WHAT IF I CANT?, WHAT IF THE WHOLE TIME SHE TALKING TO HIM?, SHE ALSO TOLD ME SHE WENT TO A FORTUNE TELLER AND DEY TOLD HER SHE WUD B A GUY WITH HIS DISCRIPTION, WHICH HURT ME ALOT EVEN THOUGHT I DONT BELIEVE IN IT, BUT NOW IM STUCK ON HOW TO FEEL, WHAT TO DO TO WIN HER BACK, IM HURTING SO MUCH RIGHT NOW, PLEASE HELP
First off she needs to let you know what it was about you that caused her to break up with you. You can't expect to please her without knowing what displeased her.
She might not know for sure why she broke up with you. That's ok. Then just be yourself and hope for the best. You can try to change yourself in some ways, but you can't change yourself a whole lot. Talk with her as much as you can (without annoying her) and she will give you clues about what she likes and doesn't like. Anytime you don't understand her just ask her to explain some more.
Feel good that you have this chance to get her back but don't expect it to be all roses. You will still have little arguments. You will have to control yourself and not argue because she is stubborn and prideful.
Congratulations on getting a second chance with her! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com