I'm lonely in that I dont have that special person other then a friend to express myself to
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
itz not really a question but ....Ummmm where to began....well im depressed to the limits of being depressed .... y well im lonely in that i dont have that special person other then a friend to express myself to ..... i have been like this for the longest of time...... to make things worse i see couples everywhere and it hurts real bad....do u no wat it feels like to have holiday like christmas or valentine day to go by....and no special person other then u r family to spend it with...... i every day hope to run into that girl.....and when i think i have im either put down slowly or just given the word that kills every guy"friend" .. im tired of it i need this now for myself.... i feel like i missed out on so much ... honestly i never had that first kiss .... it sucks so much when i no people younger then me have done this already.... to make things worse i have a brother who has a girlfriend and hes constantly going to her house and he has done all the things i shud of done a while ago ....im not a ugly guy iv been in one relationship and the girl cheated ...that made me judge myself so much to the point where im afraid to open up to a person that i really like ...i sometimes find myself looking desprite only cuz i dont no how to responed to a girl cuz i dont hav much experience....this act makes me afraid that i may scar her away.... overall im lost within my heart .... and the world around me is hurting me almost everyday when it expresses wat i dont have.....
First off, don't think you are alone. There are many, many men and women who are in the same situation as you are.
Go to a supermarket on a Friday or Saturday night about 8 o'clock and you will see the unmarried women who are filling a lonely evening by themselves shopping for groceries.
If you really want to change your life, you are going to have to fight like crazy to remodel yourself and get a gung-ho attitude. There are plenty of places to meet people-- a good one that comes to mind is square dancing or contra dancing. A lot of these people are single and looking for a partner.
Another place is church socials, people there delight in introducing single people to each other. Call around and found out if local churches have these activities.
Ask friends if they know any single girls who might be interested in going out on a date. Be brave in all of this because if you don't try your hardest you are probably not going to get too far.
The zest of trying every day in some way or another will add adventure to your life and reduce those depressing feelings. Go on the internet to a search engine (http://www.google.com is a good one). Type in FINDING DATES and see what you come up with. I just did it and found a great site with more ideas:
Hope some of this helps. Trust me you are not the only one who needs advice and encouragement on this topic.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com