I cheated. worse, I fell in love
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i have been married for 10 years, and have 2 kids. my husbdand was verbally abusive, and for years we barely spoke. then a year ago, i met someone who turned my world upside. i cheated. worse, i fell in love. he is also married, and does not want to end his marriage. we are still seeing each other, but nothing feels right anymore. 2 months ago i filed for divorce. my husband started to see a counselor to deal with his abusive behavior. he has changed, and i took him back. but i am not sure if i love him anymore. i am scared. i never thought of myself as being immoral, but i know what i have done is not ok. i don't know what to do next. i am afraid i will never be happy again. should i stay in marriage, and make it work? should i leave because if i cheated it wouldn't work anyway? my thoughts just aren't rational anymore.
Now that your husband has gone to a counsellor, it is your turn.
You need a professional counsellor to spend time with you and talk you through your feelings and thoughts so that you can figure out what you want to do.
Meanwhile ask yourself some questions:
Can you love your husband again?
Can you give up your lover?
Will your husband stick with his current good behavior?
How will your kids react if you go ahead with a divorce?
How about your financial future?
What if your husband finds out about your lover?
Are you willing to risk destroying your lover's family?
I'm sure the counsellor will have many more questions for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com