I want to make her love me!
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
how do i make a girl fall in love with me i have one girl that i really love and all i want to know is how to make her love me too?
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You can't ever make someone love you. Love is about voluntarily feeling strong emotion for someone else. It's like making someone love liver. That person might like liver, or hate it, or love it, but it is something they feel.
If a girl is totally wrapped up in horses, and horses are very important to her, and if you hate horses with a passion and think they are stupid animals, there is a basic disconnect between you two. No matter what trickery you try to do, the basic incompatability is there.
So the real question that I think you're asking is, is there some way you can change your fundamental makeup so that this person decides you're now perfect for him/her. The problem with that is that real love is based on two people truly being in love with the *real* person that they see. Someone who really loves you *will* love you for what you are, exactly are you are NOW. If you have to trick the person, or change yourself, or do certain things, it's just not love.
Don't settle for someone you have to fool into being fond of you. Find someone who truly loves you for what you are, the way you are. That kind of love is the kind that lasts forever. If she DOES love you on her own, then you have a great match!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Don't do it
Make time for her
I had same problems
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Male