She apologized to me a number of times, and promised she wouldnt say such mean things again
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I'm a 35 y/o male, in a new relationship, that started approximately 3 months ago. It hasn't been as smooth of a beginning as I would have hoped and quite frankly, I've never experienced so much turmoil at the start of a relationship, as i have in this one.
I have recently developed a trust issue with "her", due to some comments she's made within the last 2 weeks. She makes these comments, when she gets angry, and it can be over just about anything, and the first troublesome comment she made was the following: "I'm going to go be with J* (A Male aquaintence of hers) down at his cabin all weekend." Then a couple days later, she got upset because I couldn't help her move, because i had to work, and then said she felt like i am using her for sex and just dump her off when im finished. This isn't true of course, but because of her being mad, and i did leave for work, she called me, and in a soft calm voice told me, "I have something I could tell you that will break your heart," then she hung up on me. Just to call me back a couple minutes later to say, "By the way, I ended up F***ing J* and it was so hot." I asked her when this happened, and she said 2 days prior. This obviously upset me, and I hung up because i was distraught. Come to find out later on, she never did go be with the guy ever, and said these things to hurt me, because she was mad. She apologized to me a number of times, and promised she wouldnt ever say such mean spirited things again. Well, needless to say, we are still together, but I'm unsure of it all now. Any advice for how to go about mending this and move on? Should I even continue in this? Should I proceed with caution and make it clear how i feel, and that i dont trust her comepletely now, and allow things to end up where they may? Any suggestions regarding this messed up, crazy situation? Thanks~!
Sad to say but she sounds like a real loser. I'm not sure why you are still with her. So I vote for moving on.
If you decide to give her another chance, do what you said and be very careful and wary about her. Her little trick on you about J* shows her to be a very unkind person and I'm sure something like that will happen again.
Wishing you the best! George
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