We watched a movie and she started to kiss me and get a little frisky.Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
What should I do?
This girl and I were hangin out for about 3 months. Shes 24 and I'm 31. She made the first move in the whole relationship. She was calling one week then no calls the next week. I would call and sometimes get no return calls. I asked again what she wanted with this relationship and her answer was that she wanted to take time with us so that she could get over her last 2 and half year long relationship that ended 6 months before I came in the picture. We had a odd week after I said that I felt this was not going to work and I didn't feel she really wanted to hang out. She replied that she didn't feel that way and said that we need to take time and get to know one another, I felt the same way. By this time it had been a month since we had been hanging out. A week went by and things were good and she made plans to hang out on a week day night. I thought it wouldn't happen. Well the night cam she called and asked to come over. She came over and things were great all smiles and laughs and after dinner she said she was staying the night. I didn't expect it but was happy. We watched a movie and she started to kiss me and get a little frisky. (I sounnd old. lol) We went to the bed room and put in a another movie in and things started to heat up. She took charge and strated everthing. We had sex and she stayed the night, it was a perfect night. Well the weekend came. I had to pick my sister from the airport and this girl came over to go out. I asked her if she wanted to go with me, she became queit and asked if we could meet up later. We met up later and I felt she was distant and didn't want to show any sort of affection. I was confused. In the car I was a little upset with night and didn't say much. We get my place and hung out for a while, her sister took my roomate to her house, Thinking about it I wonder if they had a plan so that she could spend the night with me. Things were weird that night and I know I had to alot to do with it too. Well she left telling me that she had to babysit her sisters kid which want true and said sorry. She asked me to call her about a concert that I had told her about the next night. I didn't call her the next night and went to the show with a friend. She texted me during the show to see how it was. I replied good and said she should come and see it, she was in bed. Well I called the next day to say sorry about my actions on friday night. No biggy she said. I went on vactions a few days later and she texted me to see how it was going. I called here we spoke for about 5 min I asked to call back which turned out to be a few days later. When she called it seemed good and she seemed happy. She asked me to call her when I got back. I called her the day I was comming back and left a message saying we should hang out after I got home. Maybe that was too forward. I dont know. I haven't heard from her and I haven't called her. I'm wondering if i should call or email her? Am I jumping the gun? Please help!
Thanks for of your help!!!
This story is like a jigsaw puzzle!
There are so many pieces that don't seem to fit together smoothly.
Which of you care about this relationship? I can't quite figure it out. Neither one of you seem committed or even loving. It's a story of people not returning calls, going to concerts without the other, and strange moods.
My advice to you is to decide how you feel about this woman and proceed accordingly. If you like her, go for her. If you don't care that much for her then don't.
Be sure that the two of you talk this out so you can either go forward or stop with a sense of completion. I don't think you talk enough about your relationship. Try a little harder there... it seemed to work once for you.
My best wishes are with you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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