I really love him and want him back so badly
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi George, Thanks for the prompt reply.
Maybe I should elaborate more. During the 2 months of him trying to get back together with me, I was dating this guy whom I realise that I do not like. But I suppose the ex found out and he was even more hurt than before. I suppose this must have gone through in his mind: how could you have feelings for me and yet still say you "like" this guy? That must have been a blow for him for him to make the decision of giving up the relationship.
Actually I've talked to him on the day I've sent you my question and told him how I felt that if we could pull this through together, we'll be a much stronger couple together. I also told him that I've really mended my ways and realised all the mistakes I've made in the past. But he still insisted that he didnt want this anymore and he told me to learn how to appreciate my next bf because he won't be there for me anymore. When I asked him why he didnt want the relationship anymore, he said "personal reasons that I don't think you need to know." What's that supposed to mean? Or is it that he didnt wish to upset me and that's why he made such a response? He is still avoiding me and not talking to me or responding to my emails, phone calls etc, but I've not tried contacting him for the past 5 days already.
Your advice was to give him time. I think I'm ready for that, because I think he needs the time and space apart from me as well. I feel that he perhaps needs this time to enjoy himself and be happy just like I did during those 2 months when he was trying and I was casting the relationship aside. Do you think he still has any feelings for me? I mean, he's avoiding me at all costs, he gave "personal reasons" as a reason why he didnt want the relationship anymore... I really love him and want him back so badly. I was thinking of making him some herbal tea because it's exam period now for us and I thought that I should make him something to show that I care. So how??
When he mentioned "personal reasons" I think he simply meant he didn't want to talk about it. It probably still hurts too much for him.
You are right to give him his space now since he needs time to heal.
Try the advice I gave you yesterday and it may be the right combination of leaving him alone and maintaining contact. It is ok to mention that you still care for him when you call him once a week. He probably would like it very much even though he won't admit it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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