Sould I keep telling him how I feel or should I just leave him alone?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I am so in love with my ex. We talk almost everyday and we do all the things that we did when we were together. He has been playing games with me to make a long story short. I think he tries to take advantage of my love because he knows how strong my feelings are for him so he will do stuff knowing that i will call or things wont necessarily be over. Basically he knows that ill be there. But our situation hurts me too bad. Im so happy when im with him. He tells me all this stuff about us and our future and how much he loves me when we're together. We still have sex and to me it means something. We jus did recently and after that i hadnt really talked to him. Everytime i call he's busy and when he says he's going to call back he doesnt. I called him again last night. He was like ima call u back. I texted him and told him not to call back because then i could at least think that the reason he aint call back was because i told him to. He texted me back sayin he aint know what my problem was and he didnt do nothin. I told him that my problem was him and that he always plays games with me. He called. I called back and we started talking. I was telling him how i felt. Our main problem is our committment thing. He doesnt know if he wants to be in a relationship with me but he wants me to wait and not to talk to anybody else. I dont mind but i just dont want to be waiting for anything. But last night he told he was like ima talk to somebody that wants to talk to me. He tried to put that on me when i wasnt that i didnt want to talk to him. I never said that. But then he told me that he didnt want to be in a relationship with me and not to wait on him. That hurt me and really upset me. I started crying and told him how i felt. Then he said that the reason why he has been holding out on being in a relationship was because he might have to move away and he jus didnt want to tell me. He said i was the love of his life and that he cares for me more that any other girl and that he loves me. I wanna believe that but i kinda think that he jus told me that to try and make me feel better and to not make me think he jus didnt want me. I really need as much advice as possible because its killing me inside. I dont know if i should keep telling him how i feel or if i should jus leave him alone and try to move on with my life. In a way i think he told me that jus as an excuse to not be with me. Im not sure. Sometimes i just thinks he tells me stuff because i say things. I love him with all my heart. He is my heart. He is my everything. I just dont know what to do. Im jus so tired of crying and never having answers to questions about us. What should i do?
He is using you and you know it.
He is taking advantage of your love to get what he wants from you without making any commitment or effort on his side. I don't believe his story about moving away and I don't think you do either.
What can you do with a person like this? You can talk to him-- which you are doing without much success. You can just let things slide-- which you have also doing with little success. You can break things off with him. You havent' tried this, and my advice is to give this a try.
Let him be on the short end of the stick for a while and see how he really feels about you. My guess is that he will start paying more attention to you and you can try to get more of a commitment from him. This won't be an easy thing for you to do, but you've tried most everything else.
Best of luck to you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com