Should I go and see what could possibly develop if anything or should I stay as an online friend?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have met this fantastic young lady, absolutly wonderful..... She is soon to be 21 and I am soon to be 31. I met her online on one of those webcam sites but shortly there after we exchanged information and began to chat with yahoo messanger, btw this against the rules on the site she works for. Over time we have learned more and more about each other and I have grown some very strong feelings for her but my problem is that I live in the United States and she is in Romania. We talk almost ever day and even when she is working on her webcam site she still talks with me on the instant messanger. I have sent her flowers a couple times and have offered her my unconditional friendship. This is a woman that I could honestly picture being with from now on even though I have never met her and I have told her how I feel. She tells me that I can feel free to express my feelings to her whenever I like but the kicker is that she has had some bad experiences with other guys in the past and she told me that unlucky for me I have crushed with a girl that has closed every door to her heart, I told her that I want to be the one to open those doors, maybe not for me but for some luck guy so she can have the feeling of love and care in her heart once again, I want to be there for her to listen, to understand, to love and to care for her. She said that I can come visit her whenever I like but next spring when she is on break from school would be best but I am not sure that I should do that knowing that my feelings would more than likely become stronger, should I go and see what could possibly develope if anything or should I stay as an online friend. She is really wanting to get out of the web cam business and I am in the process of trying to help her with what she needs but she told me that if I help her she does not want any money from me..... There are many things I need answers to and i know there is no possible way you can help me with all of them. The bottom line is that I love this girl and want to be with her but not knowing if it can ever happen is killing me inside. What can I do? What do I need to do? I want to know what she feels for me or if she could ever feel for me the way I do for her.....Please help!!!!!!!!
Wait until Spring and if you feel the same go visit her.
This will give both of you more time to grow closer so when you meet things will go smoother.
Meanwhile you can work on opening doors to her heart.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com