I soon realized that I had very deep feelings for him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I know this question has been asked before but I really want to get over him, but can't seem to let go of him. The problem is he works right across from my job and we both can watch what the other's doing. We started becoming friends after his old guitarist and I started just chit chatting during my breaks. Soon this said guitarist was asking me to go see their shows and it turns out that the 3 of us had some mutual friends. K and I starting become very very close i found him to be a very good friend. Soon we were constantly emailing each other talking all the time at work. One day he dropped a bomb on me by casually telling that he had a girlfriend. I was a little upset but it was no big deal. It started to be, anytime a friend or I would ask about her he'd get very mad. I soon learned that his girlfriend was off limits. I ended up going to almost all of their gigs simply because I was friends with K his guitarist and their lead singer. K's girlfriend started going to their all their shows even though she goes to college 4 hours away. Things went from bad to worse with her. I didn't know her but she sure as hell knew about me and was talking a lot of stuff about me. Whenever she was home from school she'd be at his job. Soon her friends and sister would randomly pop up at my job. She began prank calling my best friend. K and I ended up not talkig for 3 months it was the most terrible thing. I soon realized that I had very deep feelings for him. My best friend was moving away and she went and said goodbye to him. He ended up blurting out how much i meant to him how lonely he felt how confused he was and that he missed me so much. He ended up crying while telling her this. After about another month or so we kind of started talking again and i eventually told him how i felt and his reply was it can't go past this point. Fine i didnt think it would but i just needed to get it off my chest. Now he's back to his flirty little ways with me. I just try to keep our conversations short and simple. His girlfriend has caught wind of us and is starting her crap again. I'm transferring jobs partly so I can get away from him and am no longer seeing him or his friends outside of work. The only problem is i have really deep feelings for him and can't seem to let go. Sorry this was so long but i don't know what to do anymore. I get the feeling that he's too scared to be honest with, i feel he feels the same way as I do but I could be totally wrong. Any advice will help. I'm stuck.
Sorry, but it's time to move on.
He has had every chance to get closer to you and he still sticks with her girlfriend. Sounds like he likes you, but likes her more.
Try keeping your relationship as close friends and who knows what that might develop into.
Your idea of transferring jobs is a good one.
Good luck! George
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