He's a great guy and nothing romantic ever needs to happen... i just want his friendship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
The thing is that there is this guy that goes to my school and he is in my grade. Ive known this guy since i came to my school which was in 7th grade and now im in my junior year and we always gotten along really well as in weve been friendly with each other but nothing more(we didnt really know each other). Well he got this crush on this other girl who my friends and i hang out with and he started hanging out with us to get to know her better. Well thing is that while he was getting to know her better he also got to know me better and we found out that we are really similar and have a lot in common. So next thing i know we are flirting a lot with each other.... and i developed this crush. The next day i found out that the girl liked him as well which meant that if he asked her out at any point she would say yes.... and my other friend didnt know how i felt so she was trying to get them together. I told my friend that i liked him and she told me "You know he likes her right?" and i said yeah... The thing is that hes had plenty of chances to ask her out and he hasnt. We both get along well but because shes his friend too i think she said something to him about how i feel cuz i think hes been avoiding me in a way.... and hes been really pensive. Hes not mean to me or anything which i take as positive because even if he knows hes no fully repeling me because even though he tries to avoid me when we talk we flirt and everything..... Ok anyway i want to know if im imagining that hes avoiding me or not and i want to know if he knows about my feelings and if thats why hes being distant because i think hes a great guy and nothing romantic ever needs to happen... i just want his friendship cuz we r really similar and hes the first guy i actually feel i can be myself with...(sorry if this was so confusing).
If he really likes this other girl and if he knows you like him he might be a little pensive when he is with you.
Keep talking and flirting with him and try to make him a good friend. You and he will enjoy being friends. And, if he asks this other girl out, then you will have to wait and see if the break up. But, you never know, he may ask you out first!
Meanwhile keep you eye out for other boys... there are tons of them that would like to date you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com