i really miss him and he even told his parents i was "the one" when we were going out
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
my ex and i had dated for 6 1/2 months. he was my first love let alone my first serious boyfriend. same for him. hes got this car that he paid way more attention to me at times and i would get very frustrated and broke up with him 4 times but it would last no longer than 2 or 3 hours. we were really in love. he treated me like a princess and called me beautiful and told me he loved me everynight and every chance he could. weve been broke up for about 5-6 months and im still stuck on him. i tried see another guy this summer and he was seeing another girl but it didnt work out for either of us. i have had countless "freak" outs on him because he has changed soo much. hes gotten into being a big drinker and hanging out with the wrong crouwd. i have written him many notes to him and we have talked about it. his family loves me and he told me he doesnt know what hes doing in his life and that he still knows we have something special but doenst know if we were ever in love. but then he tells me he doesnt think we are even good friends cause everytime we try it always ends up in us fighting because he makes no effort. im getting really frustrated cause i feel like its all my fault. i try going without talkign to him and he always asks if im mad and i talk to him again. i really miss him and he even told his parents i was "the one" when we were going out. do u think we ever have a chance of being together? i know i messed up alot but i want him back soo bad and i know he hasnt lost ALL feelings for me. he even told me. what do i do.
You messed up when you started "freaking out" on him.
You two constantly argue and he is in with the wrong crowd.
Why should he want to be your b/f with all that fighting going on? You need to learn to control your temper and stop fighting. Think about it... is anyone in your family a fighter? If so, that's where you learned it. It is going to be very hard to stop fighting.
One thing to try is wait until you feel a fight brewing and one of the two of you make a hand signal like the peace sign or something. The other person makes the sign back. That is a clue to stop that conversation.
Make peace with this fellow and you have a chance! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com