I still feel he is the one, the boy that will grow into the man that I will be with
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My ex and I broke up two-three weeks ago, and I've been fine with it. Well, as fine as I can be. I cry every single day, but it's just from loneliness and missing him.
We were together for 15 months, and we went through a lot together. Then, the end of our senior year came and summer passed, and then college started. I grew a little jealous because he was off at college and we had some arguments (okay, more like, I nagged.) Then, he started telling me that he wasn't sure if he loved me anymore romantically. Then, he told me he still wanted to stay with me and make it work and that he did love me, but two weeks later we came to a discussion about our relationship again, and he told me he still wasn't sure. So I left him. Long distance relationships are hard, so if I had a b/f with wavering feelings, then I didn't want to be in that relationship.
He says he doesn't feel for me romantically anymore, but he still cares for me a lot. It just hurts a lot because I still love him very much, and wonder how he can get over me so quickly and forget all that we shared. He calls me every single day, and I only call him occasionally, like maybe once a week. He calls me whenever he has a 10 min. break from class, after he goes running, etc.
I still feel he is the one, the boy that will grow into the man that I will be with. I just don't know if this is false hope, or should I keep believing in him & wait for him? I don't want a relationship with him right now, since it is much too hard. He also told me he didn't want to like anyone romantically anyone right now because it was easier not to. What does it all mean?
It means that you are ex's and also best friends.
You've only been broken up for a short time so it is too early to try to make final conclusions about what is happening. You should let some more time pass and he may change his mind.
For yourself, keep yourself going by knowing that things will get better for you given some time.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com