my boyfriend gave me an ultimatum and i chose to not talk to my ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i've been in my current relationship for nearly 2 years and we even plan on getting married.the only problem we have is that i can't seem to get over my ex that i broke up with, 2 years ago. it's not that i want to get back with my ex, i know it would never work and truly love my boyfriend.i want to talk to him and when i do, my boyfriend gets really upset. my boyfriend gave me an ultimatum and i chose to not talk to my ex.i still want my ex in my life and can't stop thinking about him. i wish i could get over him because i dont want to hurt my boyfriend. i am so torn about this even though i know i shouldn't be. what can i do?
Don't accept ultimatums.
If your boyfriend is in the habit or gets into the habit of issuing ultimatums then you will have to deal with a controlling person if you get married.
Trust becomes involved here too. If he can't trust you to talk to your ex, what other things might he become untrusting about.
These are hypothetical and I am not suggesting you stir up the waters with your boyfriend on this but keep it in mind in case his behavior continues. At some point you might need to draw the line. You give him an ultimatum--no more ultimatums.
You made your choice when he gave you the ultimatum. Try to live up to it. Because if you don't, your boyfriend's mistrust will be proven to him.
-- from George
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