Pretending to be Experienced
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I just met this great guy and we both like each other and want to go out but i am afraid to because he is way more experienced then me. I know that the proper thing to do is to explain this to him but i dont want to do that as it would be embarassing and im afraid of what his reaction would be. I need some tips on how to make it look like i know what i am doing and that i have done it before . Please help me
NO NO NO NO NO. A relationship is NEVER NEVER about faking things or pretending things. The MOST important thing a guy looks for is honesty. He wants to be able to trust you. Most guys would be THRILLED that you are innocent and that he'll be the one to show you the pleasures of life!!! Do NOT take that away from him, and do NOT try to fake things! He'll find out, he'll be hugely disappointed that you were lying to him and he will probably drop you like a hot potato.
Experience does NOT matter in a relationship. Every single contact between two people is UNIQUE. What one person likes, another person hates. He may have kissed other girls, but he has not kissed YOU and if he even assumes that you are like other girls he is incredibly wrong. The way he has kissed in the past may be a way you completely hate. The most important thing you can possibly do with someone is completely forget everything you assumed you knew in the past and learn what THEY like. Some people like soft touches. Some like firm touches. Some like friction. Some like smoothness. The great pleasure in a relationship is the slow, intimate exploration of the other person.
So explore with him FROM SCRATCH without silly lessons or fake 'learn in 10 steps' methods. Really, ignore those all. They can only cause serious harm. Tell him the TRUTH, and start from scratch with him. The rewards will be amazing.
If you want to do anything at all, spend a few days figuring out for YOURSELF how you like to be touched. Most teenagers already know how to bring pleasure to themselves. So practice doing that. That way, when he asks you what you like, you know how to answer.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com