i mean is there hope? can a relationship thats getting old be good and dandy again????
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
hi, my bf nd i have been going out for almost 2 years... and weve gone through break ups, and last incident was that we would never do this again, and be happy and understand each other and not over react... well for the past 2 weeks, my bf has been less talkative and affectionate... i mean i was too, but then that was only because something seemed to be wrong with him, so i jus automatically not say nething... i am soo frustrated right now... please help me... yesterday we got into an argument over something really stupid, and all of a sudden he told me that he is not happy with me. and the whole day he was cold to me and careless... then today, he tells me that because of me always gettin upset over stupid stuff and getting mad at everything he says have made our relationship get old. AND HE SAID that we are OLD...... i don't know what am i supposed to do.... please help me... he said that we both try to bring back our happy times... nd it worked for three weeks, buh because of that stupid argument weve had ... he is bursting up and acting like this... and i asked him how am i supposed to take this... he tells me however you want... its the truth im telling you the truth... yea i understand that we haven't been much talkative nd interesting over the two weeks, buh isn't that part of a phase??? or is our love really dying away... he told me that a lot of the things i do bug me... but why does he let what i do bug him?? i mean if you really love someone i thought you are able to jus let it go... is our love really getting old??? ike he said is our relationship really gettin old because im "always" upset
it seems like hE doesn't even care that he is hurting me, he keeps telling me that its the truth and he doesn't even know what to do about our relationship... he tells me that things built up.... stupid things.... i love him a lot... but if he things we are gettin old... i mean is there hOpe? can a relationship thats getting old be good and dandy again????
are we just attached??? or is he just tired of me so he is just giving me hints?? he tells me that he still loves me, but he thinks we are getting OLD.... what do i do.... please help me.................
Ask him what you could do to make the relationship feel less old.
Part of the problem is that you two argue too much. Did you try the suggestions I made to your last email? I suggested that you two use signals to indicate that you felt an argument was brewing.
Is that what he means when he says the relationship is old? That you argue too much? You two need to have some very long, close, loving, honest, and trusting talks and find your way to the bottom of the problem. Clearly you two can do this and I certainly cannot.
Have you considered professional counseling?
Good luck! George
-- from George
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