everything was going great until i got a new job
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hello, my name is j*. and i am in deire need of some answers. about 2 years ago i met this women at a party. and her friend told me that night that she had a crush on me. one thing lead to another and i woke up in her bed. at the time she still was hooked on her ex. so i left it alone. but after a couple months i started feeling something for her. and then i worked up the nerve to talk to her more specificaly towards a relationship. and it went on and off until about 3 months ago. she started having feelings for me. and everything was going great until i got a new job, that made me have to be in bed by 9 and up by 4. which didnt leave much time for me and her because she has a 2 year old son. so then one week, she just stoped talking to me. and i was left with no answers or anything. i tried talking to her, and sending her flowers. no response, until i saw her in the bar a couple weeks ago. and i tried to talk to her, but all she would do was tell me that we dont click, and she went home with another guy. i was devistated. i didnt know what to do. or what to do now.... i talked to her this past friday, and told her i hope she isnt mad at me. and she said she wasnt...(lying) and she said that i was the one mad. well. i told her if i went home with some random women from a bar. would u be mad? she said no (lying)... so i really need some professional advice on what to do...... : /
I have no idea how to help you with this... she seems gone.
Here is the usual advice if you want to try it:
Call her once a week just to ask her how she is doing, only 15 min, and don't push the relationship. After a month or so where she sees you are not pushing her or blaming her she may start feeling differently about you.
You could also tell her that you are thinking of getting a new job (and if she jumps on that idea, then you probably will want to get a new job.) I say this since you think that may have been what set her off.
I hope some of this helps!
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